When we are triggered, our limbic system (the reptilian brain) is activated and we find ourselves thrown into a 'fight, flight or freeze' response. Simultaneously we lose access to our pre-frontal cortex and our ability to think logically, speak calmly and make decisions for the common good is affected. When the limbic brain is in a state of high-arousal, the only message it transmits is 'defend or die'. Self-preservation is the limbic brain's only goal. This comes at a cost to our relationships because when we are constantly defending ourselves, we are making the other person wrong. It makes sense then that being triggered can be corrosive on relationships.
Neurofeedback slowly unwinds and calms the central nervous system so that when we are triggered our habitual reactivity becomes less and less intense, until one day we may notice that things that used to trigger us, no longer do so. The neurofeedback process is effortless— simply lie back and relax and enjoy the music while the feedback teaches the central nervous system to become calm. And for those who hate dredging up painful events of the past, you don't even have to talk because the healing happens beneath the conscious mind. You will probably feel a lovely sense of ease or a ‘letting go’.
Training the brain with neurofeedback makes our life bigger — as the fear falls away with training, those things we used to avoid doing just in case we were triggered become a lot less scary and a lot more manageable.